I am by no means an expert on love (currently not being in a
romantic relationship). My observation
of Valentine’s Day is that it is a day where one scrambles around idiotically
trying to put all the love that should be shown to someone throughout the whole
year into one special day; it becomes a contest, a day of unnecessary pressure
not to mention outrageous expense. Would
it not be better to remember to show love all 365 days of the year in some
small form, gesture or measure rather than try to accumulate it all into one
day of the year? As a woman (and one
that delights in giving) – lucky (or rather blessed) will my "last best friend" be when God brings him into my life - my recommendations would be as follows:
1.
Make something for the one you love. What about making a coupon book full of
personal love coupons that pertain only to things the two of you could
understand?… When someone takes time to make something it shows a great deal of
thought and consideration…
2.
Take an interest in what interests the one you
love. A relationship should be a two way
street. A relationship can get stale if you do the “same ol’ same ol’, switch
it up a bit. What is something that you’ve always wanted to try and never
done? Maybe sit together and plan a “bucket
list.” Your special someone might surprise you with a suggestion they
make. You might discover a new hobby or
interest the two of you can do together.
Make an effort, if they are not worth the effort perhaps the
relationship is not worth the having…
3.
What about instead of taking each other out for
dinner for Valentine’s Day, you purchase a calendar together and mark a date
night once a week (or once every two weeks or whatever fits your
schedules?) Try a restaurant you’ve
never been to before. Make it fun –
dress according to the ethnicity or food genre.
Decide on a fun way to eat the meal – going out for Chinese? Opt for the
chopsticks instead of the utensils, or set rules for your meal – you are not
allowed to feed yourselves, only each other.
If you are in Massachusetts a great restaurant to try is The Medieval
Manor. Go in character! Be a wench or a scullery maid or a Knight!
4.
Don’t want to go out? Have a theme night date at
home. Put a bunch of ideas on pieces of
paper, put them in a bowl and choose one.
It might be fun playing your favorite Bible character like Adam and Eve…
J Or even making up your
own Song of Solomon – only put your own name to it Song of _____________. Be creative!
5.
It is better to give than to receive – think about
doing something for someone who is *not* in a relationship. Valentine’s Day can be a lonely time for
those who aren’t with a significant other. Plan a party or fellowship where you
have fun games to play – Twister never goes out of style.
Romance and love differ from
couple to couple. It’s not the same for
each person. It’s just a matter of
taking time out to really think about the other person. What would bring a
smile to their face? What fun can you have in setting it up? To me, there is
nothing greater than the surprised look of appreciation on the face of someone
I did something special for! A good
relationship is one that requires thought, appreciation, love and
attention. When you care about someone,
all of those items take no effort at all because it’s worth it. If you are with someone who you have been
with for years and years, rediscover them – like opening up your favorite
book. Read the pages of them over and
over and show them how much you love, treasure and appreciate them. Not only one day, but every day of the year…
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