Sandi Patty His Eye Is On The Sparrow

Are you Settling for Less? WHY?

It's right there in black and white - the best love story ever....

I woke up this morning excited about the future.  It's been a while since I've felt that way, I guess because so much has happened within the last two years... Have you ever woken up excited about doors that are opening?  You want to peek and see, but you have to wait. Like a kid on Christmas Eve! I actually feel like "giggling." How silly is that?

I posted a question on my FB that really made me think this morning... The question was "If you became stranded on an island, what would you bring?" And why is it that no one ever thinks of saying - "A boat?" (LOL) How obvious an answer is that? Yet I've not heard that answer before... Its as plain as the nose on a face.  Then I started thinking about why? Maybe its because we don't "want" to get off that island? Maybe its because we don't "think" we deserve to get off that island? Maybe its because we are "hiding" from everyone else or we isolate ourselves?  It got me thinking... What if there is something "better" than that Island - yet we don't consider that?? Hmmmmmm....

I'm going in a direction I never saw myself going. Although my life has changed so drastically, I'm in a total foreign circumstance. Learning as I go.  Putting things behind me and trying my best to move forward.  There is one thing that I DO know, and that is that God has called me to write. It's something that he told me 20 years ago but I never believed in myself (or in Him using me?) enough to be obedient enough to do it... Imagine if the Apostles had done that? Not allowed God to use them? Where would we be now? Hmmmm....

I've also been thinking about how we don't see the "full' picture.  Maybe sometimes God has to do things to capture our attention?  We don't always listen or perhaps "hear" Him.  Maybe He is at a point in some of our lives where He's now waving his hands over His head, or taking two fingers into his mouth whistling "Hey Kelly! Over here!!!"  Did you ever think about that?  I have to believe that the things that happen to us in this life - happen for reasons we don't know, or can't fully understand.  I have to believe that in the long run - it works out to God's good.  Even when we are having a "Huh? Are you kidding me?!!" moment.  

There are times in my life (especially recently) where I haven't felt God's arms around me. Holding me tight. Now I know we are not "suppose" to go by "feelings."  But that is a meter like a thermometer of what we are thinking... I've been so wrapped up in the situation(s) or problems, or trying to figure it out on my own not realizing that perhaps I don't have the "knowledge" or the "tools" to do it myself, no matter how hard I try.  Somethings we just have to "Let go and Let God." And I think maybe, that is what He wants us to do.  I'm not saying that this can't be painful.  It's hard to release things to Him.  Fully let go. Fully trust.  I don't know about you, but sometimes for me - its that I don't "believe" God will love me enough to help me through it.  (How ridiculous is THAT when He sent His son to die on the cross for forgiveness of my sins??!) My little petty problems that are so big to me are NOTHING to our Creator. 

Here is an example - I was hoping and praying for something this week. I wanted it soooo badly. I was depending on it.  I even had my sisters and brothers in Christ praying about it for me.  I never got an answer - even at the due date that had been the deadline.  I was majorly disappointed.  But then I got a call from someone about something else. Something so huge it was better than I ever imagined.  And it got me thinking - maybe what we think is our "best" is not our best at all.  Maybe God wants to bless us MORE abundantly than we can imagine?!  Imagine that?!!! I have a pretty big imagination.  So that is hard to fathom! (LOL).  I think we often forget how MUCH He loves us.  He came so that we could have life and have it MORE abundantly! (Ephesians 4:20)  Why don't we believe that?  

If you are a parent - don't you want to bless YOUR child more abundantly than you had as a kid?  You do your best to provide and give them every privilege they can have.  What makes us think that our Heavenly Father is any different?  I think sometimes we are not open to receive.  We think we are "unworthy" (and we are) but the fact is - It is not by power, not by might but by HIS Spirit. (Zech 4:6)

For the first time in a long time - I feel God's presence moving me, gently - like he is touching my shoulder and turning me around. Is that happening to you? Are you aware of it if it is?  Like He is gently saying, "This way my daughter, its time to turn around. I've watched you struggle, I've stood back and watched you get lost going your own way. But YOU belong to ME. I have called you by name. YOU are MINE."  That is what I'm hearing and even in my Prodigal state - His turning my shoulder is that of a parent who will not take no for an answer. How does He do that?  He changes the desires of your heart. What was once appealing - is no longer.  I think in the 23 years I've been saved the most powerful times.  The times that I have truly known that a relationship with God is a personal one-on-one thing is the times where He has made me "change my mind."  Like when you once liked something, and all of a sudden you don't have a taste for it anymore.  Or maybe He shows you - you wanted this. Are you SURE about that?  Let me give you a wake up call so that you can see that perhaps what you thought you wanted, isn't what you think it is."  And then He takes the scales off your eyes and you see.... "Wow... That isn't what I thought I wanted."  How could I not see it?? And then you start praising Him because He is full of grace and patience and love to see you through whatever the situation is and then gently turns your shoulder to make you go down the pathway He has for you.

I'm not saying this is an easy thing. I'm not saying its not one that doesn't take time.  But maybe what God has for us, is so much greater than what WE had planned for OURSELVES??? And maybe - just maybe we need to trust Him a little more to believe that He has our best interests in mind? Even when we don't think He loves us enough (because perhaps we haven't loved ourselves enough?).  How can we not trust a God who says "He holds us in the palm of His hands??" (John 20:24-48).  How gentle is that? Isn't that the best place to be? That's where I long to be. How about you?  Maybe there is SOOO much more then we can imagine there is for us.  Maybe we should give Him a chance to reveal it.  I'm going to.  How 'bout you?

Please pass me some of that Abundancy... Ahhh yes - thank you!

Be careful what you ask for... You MIGHT just get it... Is the saying that is going through my head these days.  I feel like one of the cars in the movie "Cars."  God is "under my hood" working his magic in a way that only the Creator knows how to do.

When you open yourself up for the Lord to change you - and you don't SEE how He will, it doesn't mean He won't.  Maybe He is giving you "new realizations" about yourself?  Maybe He's giving you a second chance? He Created YOU its NOT that hard for HIM to do.  "Not by power, not by might but BY MY SPIRIT" (sayeth the Lord).

Oh how we think we know ourselves so well! Then perhaps we are given a viewpoint from Him that shows that we really know NOTHING about ourselves afterall.  I think that is because we see in part - but HE sees in full.  The changes He makes inside of us, enable us to see things more clearly.

Maybe the "front window" of your car needs cleaning.  So you can see things more clearly. Were you looking at things with "rose colored glasses?" And once your windshield was cleaned off you realize that what you thought you were seeing was not really what was there afterall?  Maybe at first you felt shocked.  That's not what I saw! You said.  Is God showing you the truth?

I have found that when He does that with me.  He does it with a gentle arm around my shoulder.  Probably because He knows I am my own "worst critic."  His Fatherly voice whispering in my ear. "There Kelly, do you see now? Sit with me a while longer. I know what I'm doing in your life.  You don't always have to know. But you do have to know that what I DO and what I say is for a reason that perhaps at this time you cannot comprehend.  Much like when you try to direct your own children into a certain direction, and all they see you saying is NO."

As the road before me gets clearer.  I know what I want.  I know what I see. The best place to be is in the center of His will.  I'm not saying it doesn't cause "growing pains." Ohhh how I am feeling them.  I'm not saying it will be easy - Oh how its NOT.  I am not sure what direction He is taking me.  But I know that even though I have felt like He is far away - He hasn't been, He's not.  He can take my mistakes and use them to glorify Himself.  I guess that is the one good thing about being a person who is transparent.  I don't know "how" to be "fake."  I never have.

What I love so much about the Lord.  Is that He is in the business of "changing us."  When we can't do it ourselves, and when we open ourselves up to Him doing it, He does miraculous things.  He tinkers inside of us and changes our desires to line up with His will.  Maybe its because we are not strong enough to do it ourselves. He takes the desire right out of us. CHANGES us so that we no longer want what we thought we wanted. I think its a process though.  Not something that happens overnight, although I suppose He can make it that way, afterall - He's God! He is able.

I don't think God makes bad things happen to us.  I think that is the result of sin in the world.  But I DO think that God uses the bad things that happen to us for GOOD. I don't think God "gave me" breast cancer.  I think He used it to capture my attention.  To show me what is important to me. What NEEDS to be important. Maybe I would have settled all my life.  Maybe I wouldn't have come to the point that I am at now.  I am not "glad" I went through breast cancer.  I rejoice that I am healed and cancer-free.  That He brought me through it.  I am forever changed inside and out.  It made me realize ohhh so many things that perhaps I would not have realized before.  Things like:

1) I have much clearer understanding of what is important and what isn't.
2) I try to live life FULLY because I realize its a GIFT and can be taken away at ANY TIME
3) I have more compassion and am less selfish
4) I realize that I can never ever ever settle for LESS at any given point in my life
5) I have become less judgmental.  If you haven't walked in someone's shoes - what GIVES you the right to judge them??? You don't KNOW the whole story. But God does. Leave the judging to Him.  People followed Jesus because He spoke the truth with COMPASSION.  How sad it is that that is greatly lacking in most of our churches today. When you think about that - that is a cancer, in and of itself! It needs to be corrected so that brothers and sisters in Christ can be restored. The hurting should be able to come to the church, not feel like they have to "stay away." That MUST grieve the Holy Spirit greatly...

I also have less tolerance for people who say they want to change but don't.  Not for the people that "can't" but for the people who are unhappy in their lives and unwilling to do anything about it.  I have less tolerance for empty promises. Actions mean a lot more to me because they show the intent.  If you want something to truly happen, you will do everything you know how to make it happen.  That's the change. That's the difference.

I know what I want - do YOU??? Ask yourself if you don't.  What is important to me right now at this very moment is:  My health, stability, routine, the well being of my children, the ability to move forward. To be surrounded by people who love me and are my real friends. I am far from perfect - but at least I can admit it to God.  I see no point in hiding it, He sees everything anyways. He knows the desires of your heart.  He created you!

Life is short - God said that He wants us to have life and have it ABUNDANTLY.  He wouldn't have said that in His Word if He didn't mean it. I think its time I had a helping of "abundancy" - how about YOU?

Nicole C. Mullen - Redeemer - Video

After a Storm, Comes the Rainbow - So Hold on! Don't Give in, Give up or Let Go! 

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Change...  I suppose its one of those things that is inevitable... I never much liked it.  Although sometimes "change" is a good thing. I suppose this is one of those moments...


Half the time we don't see it coming. We don't plan for it. We could be going full throttle in one direction when the winds of change come and our course is in the other direction.... The Bible tells us in 1 Corinthians 13:12  "For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known."


We only see in part. God sees the full picture. We don't.  Maybe that is His grace. Thinking about that as I type these words, I think - He sees the "fullness of me" and yet - He STILL loves me.  Even when I feel unlovable.  Even when I don't love myself enough.  Even when I make mistakes.  Even when I am at my worst - He saw it all and still He died on that cross for forgiveness of my sins. (And YOURS!)


Part of me is glad I don't see the full picture of my life - because I don't think I could have handled seeing that I would go through breast cancer, chemotherapy, radiation before the actual moments occurred.  I certainly didn't see the break down of my marriage before it occured. (Although there were signs)...  And there are good things too. My children - each one special, unique. Every change is not a bad change.  I guess you appreciate the good more because of the bad...  


Throughout this journey called life - we are constantly learning about ourselves, aren't we?  The scripture "Pride before a fall" (Proverbs 16:18) is so accurate.  And you can feel "prideful" and not even know it - until you've fallen and you're wondering "what the heck happened?"  And all of a sudden you have a new understanding of God's grace. To me, its immeasurable. We use to sing a song in church that went "It's me Lord standing in the need of prayer."  It's not until you experience "change" that you are in a place you never *thought* you'd be - that you realize that God's grace REALLY does pertain to you.  And its not by your actions, its not by your "being good enough" that gets you there. It's by HIS GRACE ALONE.


I feel His grace, His mercy this morning as I sit in my new quiet home. The kids are with their father.  How strange it is to write that... I am 2 1/2 hours away.  I wish I could say that cancer "changed" my family and perhaps it did - but the changes began earlier than that - cancer just quickened it.  We think we have control over our circumstances... We don't. Be careful over thinking that you have "steady feet" because this "balancing beam" called life can change in an instant and all you "thought" you knew you realize you didn't really know much at all.


What have I realized as I look back on my past year? I realize that peace is important, I realize that lots of discord can affect your health.  I realize that it is important for a person to have a "sanctuary. I realize that it is not my place to judge someone. (and to leave all the judging to a God who sees in full - while I just see in part).


I don't know what the future holds for me - I only know "Who holds me." (In the palm of His hand).  When you hold something in the "palm of your hand" you are holding it gently, lovingly, carefully as if it matters to you.  I matter to God.  *Smiling* and so do YOU. His grace and his mercy pertains to all of us who are willing to receive it. What a wonderful realization to start this day off... and you know what? No matter what change comes my way - that is all I really need to know.

DRAW ME CLOSE TO YOU

Bread She Said...I think I'm The Braided Kind - What Kind are You?

Is He Molding You?

I woke up this morning thinking how its okay to say "You don't have all the answers." I think that's being honest. I think its the people who think they DO have all the answers that are the ones who really need to take a good hard look at themselves.  I look at those people with disbelief in my eyes and I say, "really?"

Maybe when we admit to being imperfect, not knowing, questioning, wondering - that God says, "Okay, this is when you are mold able. I can work with you now..."

As I'm typing this, I get this picture of my head of someone making bread. Actually "throwing" the dough down hard on the table, taking the palm of their hands and pushing down on it.  Have you ever seen someone make bread?  Maybe that is what God does with us.  But we have to be pliable. Maybe He allows us to go through the things we do in life so that we can get to a point where He can make "our dough" the consistency that it can be made into something.... better. A workable consistency...

Maybe the pain we feel is us "being slammed" down on the counter with different things that are happening in our lives.  Growth can be painful.  For those of you reading who are females, do you remember the feeling of growing into womanhood during your pre-teen age? I do.  When our bodies were changing?  There were growing pains....(Sorry guys I'm not male so I can only add my own experience to the mix... no pun intended - hehehe) I can remember my kids saying they were having pains in there legs, in their knees. I would tell them it was growing pains (and it was).

The thing I think we sometimes forget - is that spiritually we are constantly growing. For as long as we have breath in our bodies - it doesn't stop. He Who is the Author and Finisher of our faith gives us the grace, the guidance and the strength to get through the "next" portion of our lives.  And only He knows what it is.  I don't know about you - but I'm quite glad He doesn't show us everything at once. I honestly don't think we can handle "everything." I think it would be too overwhelming. Maybe even mind shattering to see every portion of our lives.  God is a God of grace.

I know this may sound weird to some - but have you ever stopped to think about this?  If we are in a physical situation where we are in too much pain, God gives us the grace to be able to "pass out" "lose consciousness" so that we don't have to endure more than we can bear.  I can't say I say that from personal experience - because I never have passed out. But its a physical mechanism that God put in place so that we don't have to endure more pain then we can bear.  At least that is how I see it...

I think its okay to admit we don't always have the answers.  That we need His help. His guidance.  That we feel lost - and uncertain and sometimes, like we learned when we are kids - that if we get lost, to sit still and wait for help.  Are you waiting for help?  He says "He will NEVER leave nor forsake You." (Hebrews 13:5) He also says "He has engraved you in the palms of His hand." (Isaiah 49:16)

I know the plans I have for you...
"...For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord,
"Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future..."

Jeremiah 29:11

Even through the most difficult moments of our lives - when we are just trying to get from one moment to the next - He is there.  I sometimes forget that, its good to know that even when we are not consistent - He is.  No matter what.

Stevie Wonder - I Just Called To Say I Love You

"I Just Called to Say - I LOVE YOU!" (Come on, Sing it with Me!)

Hi!!!! How are YOU? Long Time No See... Been Thinkin' 'Aboutcha...

It's Friday and I'm in between meetings... Time to blog. I got some sad news this week - that a friend I cared a great deal about passed away unexpectedly.  I hadn't talked to him in a couple of months - life happened, it got busy.  He was so young... He was so full of life.  Once again I realized how none of us is promised tomorrow. I've been filled with such sorrow at his loss and mad at myself that I let so much time go by without checking on him... It seems all so surreal that he is gone. How is it that life goes on? The sun rises, it sets, life just continues going on as if it hasn't lost a beat... But it has - it has lost one really sweet, super fantastic human being. By no means perfect - for who of us is?  I can't pretend Patric (Sean) didn't exist - but I guess what I can do is celebrate his life.  Remember him.... And also remember to check on people I haven't spoken with in a while - pick up the phone and say - "Hey! You were on my mind, you okay? How's life?"

It is so easy to get caught up in our own situations. The Bible tells us that "We are many members but we are ONE in the body of Christ."  I think we forget that. I know I do. I think because I type 95 wpm I must be a "finger" and what good is a finger without the palm? Or the palm without the wrist? We need each other.  We can act like we don't - but we DO.

I'm not ashamed to say that it is easy to feel alone in a room crowded with people. When I was first diagnosed with breast cancer, I remember having problems with my cell phone and having to go to Sprint and the nearest one was in a mall, and it felt like everyone was going in super fast motion - like in a movie, everyone except me. And I thought - here I've just been diagnosed with this God awful disease and feel like my life has halted and everyone else is "getting ready for their weekend" it was (and is) an awful feeling. To feel like you are in a "sub-category" kinda like all of a sudden you've developed leprosy and your on the "outskirts" of society.... (Thank God for the Pink Society, which made me feel as though I wasn't alone).

How many people that we associate feel the same way? In an inner-agony that no one sees because they "think that individual is soooooo strong." That person isn't strong - they just *hide it better then most.*  Thank God for a God who is compassionate. Who is slow at anger. I think the crowds followed Jesus because of the love He showed.  He LISTENED. He CARED. He HEALED.  He LOVED.  He loved societies most unlovable people. And if He is the same today as He was yesterday as He will be tomorrow - why is it that it is so hard for US who know our Word to walk in it. To show it.  To believe it  - first for ourselves and then for others.  Hmmmmmm makes you think doesn't it?  It sure is making ME think.

Maybe after you read this blog - you will think of one person you haven't spoken to in a while and will reach out and contact that them. Let them know you care.  Smiles ARE contagious and you never really know how much your doing so will effect and maybe change the course of that individuals day... It could be a difference in any decisions they make about their own lives... Just by showing you care....  Not one of us is promised tomorrow, so how 'bout showing someone TODAY that they're important? That they are NOT alone? That God loves them....A song we use to sing in church went like this: "Give and He'll give it back to you press down, shaken together running over back in good measure... He'll give it back to YOU."  If you're in a slump yourself, maybe the person you reach out too - will actually make it BETTER for YOU! Think about it...

What exactly IS good enough?

The doctors all tell me I should cry. But I am like a faucet that you turn on and the water doesn't come out.  All you hear is the "squeek" of the metal as you try to turn the water on.... They tell me that with all I have gone through in the last year... Breast cancer, chemotherapy, emergency room visits, a marriage that has fallen a part, fighting for my life, loneliness.... That I should cry. But I can't.  I just CAN'T.  Why is that?  I've wondered that a lot lately - but I think the truth is that if I start crying - I don't know that I'll ever stop.

I thought that chemotherapy was the hardest thing I'd ever gone through. But what has actually been worse - is the devastation I see of my life from all that has happened over the last year.  You see - when you go through chemotherapy - they give you premedication that makes you sleepy. That keeps you from feeling overly nauseous.  But after treatment - the pain of all that has occurred is raw. Its numbing, its mind blowing.  And all of a sudden you don't have physicians, oncologists, nurses, radiologists all around you.  You're no longer a "specimen on a petri dish."  You're standing there by yourself and for the first time YOU FEEL THE PAIN. The emotional pain is worse then the actual physical pain itself.  The awareness of the people who have shown not to be your family or your friend because a lot of people don't know how to "deal" with what you went through. And there you are picking up the pieces of your life.  Wondering how you go on from there.  You're not the same person you were before cancer and you certainly don't know the fullness of the person you've become... You only know that your bs meter has no "pre screening" that you look at people who complain about tiny little nonsensical things and you want to say - "REALLY???" "Really???!!!"  And all the things that you had before put on the back burner of your life - have come front and center because you realize you JUST CAN'T GO BACK.  You can't.  And its not a question any more - its just you know you can only go forward - only you don't KNOW what forward is.  And your life feels overwhelmed with fires that you are trying to stamp out with your bare feet. And the tiredness is worse then the tiredness that came with chemo - because its no longer a physical tiredness - but an emotional one....

You feel like God isn't there. Maybe because of things you've done. Maybe because what you've experienced in your life isn't all "cut, dry and clean" like many of your brothers and sisters in Christ like to act like it SHOULD be.  Why is it that some brethern take such "pleasure" in the fact that you're struggling? Does it give them a sense of powerfulness? Why are there so many of us Christians HURTING in the church? And afraid to talk about it because fear of judgement FROM OUR OWN body of Christ?  And so we quietly stew in our own pain, not certain how to get close to God again.  Forgetting that "He knows our thoughts before we even think them." Forgetting even that during the time when WE FELT GOOD and WORTHY that we never really were???! Not one of us have ever been WORTHY. It is only through the blood of Jesus that ANY of us are able to come up to the cross.  I was reminded of that tonight.  That there is NO good enough.  That is only through the blood of Jesus that I can boldly go before His throne.  And so on top of everything I pray - "Father - forgive me. Forgive me for way back when things felt good and felt right before You that somewhere in my head I must have felt as though I was "good enough" but I am a work in progress. It is only by Your strength, Your grace, Your mercy that I can stand before YOU at all.  Maybe its the realization of that that will draw me closer to You.  For I can do nothing in and of myself.  It HAS to be You. It always has been YOU.  Forgive me for not seeing that until now.  I can NEVER be GOOD enough. But I don't have to be. Because YOU ARE.  Thank you Father.  In Jesus name I pray.

Amen.

All to Jesus I Surrender

The Serenity Prayer says it ALL. God Has a Sense of Humor - Do YOU?

Our lives are like these steps... One step at a time. Be patient with yourself. "Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank Him for all He has done." (Philippians 4:6)
*Photo compliments of my Best Friend, D. Kiely*

No one can tell me God does not have a sense of humor. HE DOES.  And I love Him for it. It's been a while since my last blog. I have to be inspired in order to write - and as those of you who have been reading my blog know - I'm very transparent. Treatment has been over for about a month and half now. Having a few side affects from radiation - but dealing with it.  My hair is growing back straight! LOL I'm not using my wigs anymore. They were fun and served their purpose, but now with my hair growing back (albeit very pixie-ish, can't quite do my Halle Berry look yet - not enough to "gel up" lol) its the new me.  And there is a "new me" inside and out. My life has CHANGED. I'm re-learning myself all over again. I'm coming to know the new limits set inside my mind. There are things I can't go back to. Things I can't do. It's not me saying "I don't think I can" its me saying "I SIMPLY don't HAVE it IN me and I can't."  It's a painful process, but one that is happening naturally.  I didn't realize the emotions that would go along with treatment being over.  So MUCH change. Outside and in.  My walk with the Lord is having peaks and valleys.  I find I'm thankful for being given a second chance at life - and scared to live at the same time!  I find I doubt myself - my past, my future. The decisions I've made. I'm not as secure in my faith as I once was. But I've been through SOOOO much in the last year.  I need to renew my relationship with God. Yet I'm unsure how to go about doing it.  So I'm kind of spiritually "stuck" right now.  I find myself  having a cascade of emotions about my faith. I know I've failed God in some areas of my life. But I also know its "by faith" we are saved. I know that it is only by the shed blood of Jesus Christ that I can even BOLDLY go before the Father.  But I'm struggling with different aspects of my life. And unless you've walked in my shoes - you can't possibly know what I'm talking about.  Maybe your shoes are uncomfortable too??? Maybe you are understanding what I'm talking about because you too are going through it in a certain way?? Thank GOD He looks at the heart.  Because sometimes I don't have the words to tell Him all the things that are in mine. Do you know what I mean?

In this next chapter of my life - God has blessed me with a job (now this is where His sense of humor comes in...)  The job He has blessed me with, is at a SPA/Gym/Salon. I've been made Office Manager working alongside a group of Dietitians that help people change their lifestyles and lose weight! (I'm not talking Jenny, I'm not talking Weight Watchers - although I LOVE Weight Watchers). These are medical, certified dietitians who work one on one with people who want to change their eating habits. I'm loving my new job - and not only has it given me a "free gym membership" as being one of my benefits for being there. But it is going to help me do what I need to do to save my life.  You see, I had been diagnosed with a form of breast cancer called "Triple Negative" - with that aggressive form of breast cancer the treatment for it is simply chemotherapy and radiation.  The only thing I can do to lower my chances of re-occurence is to LOSE WEIGHT.  Pffffft - not an easy thing for this girl to do! (Portuguese families have a lot of starchy yummy food not to mention the emotions that go along with eating!). I have to do this. I have to succeed.  My mind set is that I will do ALL I can not to have to go through all I've been through a second time.  (In JESUS' Name!!!) So how ironic is it that God would give me a job that ties up with the lifestyle change I need to make????  All the tools I need to do this - are right there on my job! With these amazingly talented know their stuff people! A Gym/Spa/Salon all in one!  Instead of rewarding myself with "food" I can reward myself with a "massage" or "pedicure or manicure" - I just sit back amazed by what God is doing.

There are certain things in my life I didn't expect would change.They have.  How interesting is it (and painful) that things change in our lives that we never expected to change? We truly are all a work in progress. I think we'd do well to remember that.... To give ourselves" grace" and to be patient with ourselves.  Think about being patient with yourself. What comes to mind for me is the Serenity Prayer. It goes like this:

God grant me the serenity 

to accept the things I cannot change; 

courage to change the things I can;

and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time; 

Enjoying one moment at a time; 

Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; 

Taking, as He did, this sinful world

as it is, not as I would have it; 

Trusting that He will make all things right

if I surrender to His Will;

That I may be reasonably happy in this life 

and supremely happy with Him

Forever in the next.

Amen.

We forget that we are imperfect. I failed in my marriage, actually a marriage takes "two" people. I won't beat myself up about that anymore. It's time to move on. A fresh new start. Instead of living my life in "fear" of what will happen. I am straightening out my back and lifting my chin - setting my chin firmly. Life is worth living. It REALLY is. There is so much we can be unhappy about - but I choose not to be. The biggest lesson I've learned of all is that LIFE IS SHORT.  We can get caught up with all the "bad things" or "negative things." OR we can concentrate on the good and try to change for the better. I choose the later. How about you??

Beautiful by MercyMe (Lyrics)

Who are You? Who Who Who Who?

It's been a while since my last blog, but this morning I woke up with a soft quiet voice saying in my ear: "I am the Author and Finisher of your faith." (Hebrews 12:2) This stood out to me... I had a sudden realization - one that may be obvious, but to me - it wasn't until now. HE is the AUTHOR and FINISHER of my faith. NOT ME.  It's not me.  The wonderful thing about being a child of the Most High God is that I am just that - His child. The Bible tells me "He knows my thoughts before I even think them." (Psalms 139:1-4).  He's not surprised by anything we think or do. The beginning and end of our stories he already knows by heart.

I feel  a sense of relief with that knowledge, do you?  I've been trying so hard to "refigure" my life - putting added pressure and guilt upon myself for things I've thought or done that it is a relief to me - not that I shouldn't take responsibility for my actions. But when it becomes overbearing, and I feel "stuck" I can remember - that no matter what - He is the Author and Finisher of my faith. He's given me free will - yes, but here is the thing - Once I gave my life to Him 23 years ago (when I was 21) I made Him the Author.

Oh how good ol' slewfoot is on helping us get ourselves in a pickle. Not one of us is perfect. I think life is about little lessons we learn... Before we go on to the next level, we learn from the one we are at. I'm struggling right now in the lesson I'm currently in. I don't see a way, I don't have the answers. It's not as some Christians would try to make you feel "all cut and dry." (Who ARE they anyways? The ones that act like they have it "all figured out?" Maybe they haven't struggled or gone through the fire - its not until you do that you can truly understand.)

Life doesn't always go the way we planned it to go. But when you are feeling lost - when you are struggling to figure it all out or feel "stuck" or don't have the answers. Remember that He does. He's the Answer. He's the Way, the Truth and the Life.  And no matter where you are at - or how you are feeling... HE KNOWS. I'm soooo glad that He is God. An ever present help in the time of trouble. He loves unconditionally. And He loves YOU.

That is the peace that passes ALL understanding. I'm resting in it as I "get my second wind" are you?

Barbra Streisand - Have I stayed too long at the fair

Conversing with the Lord. (Given to me by a friend)

Our Father Who Art In Heaven.
Yes?
Don't interrupt me. I'm praying.

But -- you called ME!

Called you?
No, I didn't call you.
I'm praying.
Our Father who art in Heaven.

There -- you did it again!

Did what?

Called ME.
You said,
"Our Father who art in Heaven"
Well, here I am..
What's on your mind?

But I didn't mean anything by it. 
I was, you know, just saying my prayers for the day.
I always say the Lord's Prayer.
It makes me feel good,
kind of like fulfilling a duty.


Well, all right.
Go on.


Okay, Hallowed be thy name . 

Hold it right there.
What do you mean by that?

By what?
By "Hallowed be thy name"?

It means, it means . . good grief, 
I don't know what it means.
How in the world should I know?
It's just a part of the prayer.
By the way, what does it mean? 

It means honored, holy, wonderful. 

Hey, that makes sense.. 
I never thought about what 'hallowed' meant before. 

Thanks... 

Thy Kingdom come,
Thy will be done,
on earth as it is in Heaven. 

Do you really mean that? 

Sure, why not? 

What are you doing about it? 

Doing? Why, nothing, I guess.
I just think it would be kind of neat if you got 
control,of everything down here like you have up 
there..We're kinda in a mess down here you know.

Yes, I know;
but, have I got control of you? 

Well, I go to church. 

That isn't what I asked you.
What about your bad temper?
You've really got a problem there, you know.
And then there's the way you spend your money -- all on yourself.
And what about the kind of books you read ? 

Now hold on just a minute!
Stop picking on me!
I'm just as good as some of the rest 
of those people at church! 

Excuse ME..
I thought you were praying
for my will to be done.
If that is to happen,
it will have to start with the ones
who are praying for it.
Like you -- for example .... 

Oh, all right. I guess I do have some hang-ups.
Now that you mention it,
I could probably name some others. 

So could I. 

I haven't thought about it very much until now,
but I really would like to cut out some of those things.
I would like to, you know, be really free. 

Good.
Now we're getting somewhere. 
We'll work together -- You and ME.
I'm proud of You. 

Look, Lord, if you don't mind,
I need to finish up here.
This is taking a lot longer than it usually does.
Give us this day, our daily bread. 

You need to cut out the bread..
You're overweight as it is. 

Hey, wait a minute! What is this?
Here I was doing my religious duty,
and all of a sudden you break in
and remind me of all my hang-ups. 

Praying is a dangerous thing...
You just might get what you ask for.
Remember, you called ME -- and here I am.
It's too late to stop now.
Keep praying. ( pause ... . )
Well, go on. 

I'm scared to. 

Scared? Of what? 

I know what you'll say. 

Try ME. 

Forgive us our sins, 
as we forgive those who sin against us. 

What about Ann? 

See? I knew it!
I knew you would bring her up!
Why, Lord, she's told lies about me, spread stories.
She never paid back the money she owes me.
I've sworn to get even with her! 

But -- your prayer --
What about your prayer? 

I didn't -- mean it... 

Well, at least you're honest.
But, it's quite a load carrying around all that 
bitterness and resentment isn't it? 

Yes, but I'll feel better as soon as I get even with her.
Boy, have I got some plans for her.
She'll wish she had never been born. 

No, you won't feel any better.
You'll feel worse.
Revenge isn't sweet.
You know how unhappy you are -- 
Well, I can change that. 

You can? How? 

Forgive Ann.
Then, I'll forgive you;
And the hate and the sin,
will be Ann's problem -- not yours.
You will have settled the problem
as far as you are concerned. 

Oh, you know, you're right.
You always are.
And more than I want revenge,
I want to be right with You . . (sigh).
All right, all right . ...
I forgive her. 

There now!
Wonderful!
How do you feel? 

Hmmmm. Well, not bad.
Not bad at all!
In fact, I feel pretty great!
You know, I don't think I'll go to bed uptight tonight.
I haven't been getting much rest, you know. 

Yeah, I know.
But, you're not through with your prayer, are you? 
Go on. 

Oh, all right.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil. 

Good! Good! I'll do that.
Just don't put yourself in a place
where you can be tempted. 

What do you mean by that? 

You know what I mean. 

Yeah. I know. 

Okay.
Go ahead. Finish your prayer.. 

For Thine is the kingdom,
and the power,
and the glory forever.
Amen. 

Do you know what would bring me glory --
What would really make me happy? 

No, but I'd like to know.
I want to please you now..
I've really made a mess of things.
I want to truly follow you..
I can see now how great that would be.
So, tell me . . .
How do I make you happy? 

YOU just did.