It has now been seven years since I started this blog. How quickly time goes by! We are many members but we are one in the body of Christ. Therefore you do not journey alone! Hopefully through this site you will be encouraged by the fact that many things you are going through in your own walk, others are going through (or have gone through) as well. Sometimes we think we are "going through things alone." But we are not. God said that "He would Never Leave Nor Forsake Us." (Hebrews 13:5) and that "There is Nothing New Under The Sun." (Ecclesiastes 1:9). No man is an island. It's easy to forget that. May the words in this blog help you to think, encourage you in whatever spiritual state you are in and may the Lord use them to help us to grow in Him! He is the Author and Finisher of our faith!

I don’t want any readers to think that I am “promoting” being a prodigal. I definitely am not. But what I am hoping to do – is to encourage those of us who either have had or are currently experiencing a hard time in our walk to be honest about it. Personal conviction is a powerful thing, especially if you truly love the Lord. I think that sometimes the Body of Christ critiques and judges to the point where the person who is at the other end of that pointing finger feels ostracized, alienated and alone. I don't think that that is what Jesus intended. When I read through my Bible - I see a firm yet gentle restoration that Jesus ministered to those around Him. Look at John 21:15-19. When Peter who was at an all time low point in his walk - he was firmly, yet lovingly restored by Jesus. He didn't tear him down, or yell or make him feel any worse then he already did. He spoke to him lovingly and gently - and in doing so, Peter was able to repent and minister in a much more powerful, humble and confident way and it became one of the largest ministries ever.

Please note that I am only a vessel, my calling - to write. I dedicate this blog to the Lord and ask that He use it to reach out and touch whoever needs a special, loving, personal touch from Him. My hope is that the Holy Spirit allows you to see Him through the words (and not me). We go through things so that we can extend our right hand of fellowship behind us to assist and help someone else. Our Bible is the same today, as it was yesterday as it will be tomorrow. (I am far from perfect and do not profess to have all the answers...) but the good news is - Our Heavenly Father does! His love, forgiveness, grace and mercy is real!Nothing you are experiencing in your walk comes as a surprise to Him! May He be glorified through this blog and may God bless you at whatever stage in your walk you are in!~

I am a Breast Cancer Survivor

I am a Breast Cancer Survivor
I was diagnosed with early stage triple negative breast cancer on June 24th, 2010 - I have been cancer free for 7 years now. It was only a chapter in my life - NOT my life, but the impact is one that has changed my life forever. Its important for women to know that 80% of the breast cancer diagnosis come from women who don't have a history of it in their family (My family didn't). Early detection is the key. For more information please click on the pink ribbon above. It could save your life.


October 6, 2016

Mirror, Mirror - What do YOU see????

How do YOU view yourself?
There is something that has been really pressed on my heart – which means I need to write about – so here I go… To my Survivor Brethren (actually to everyone)... 

I find myself  wanting to throw up in my mouth a little over the guys who are looking for “Malibu Barbie.”  Don’t go for the guy (or girl for that matter) who is looking for “Malibu Barbie” or the “guy with the six pack” – that guy/girl is not worthy your love.  He is shallow and vain and unrealistic and probably doesn’t even look at himself in the mirror.  Chances are he looks like “Al Bundy” (If you don’t know who that is – Google him).  Feel sorry for him, because he is pathetic and shallow and full of himself.  Those are the type of guys (forgive my straightforwardness, but I NEVER sugarcoat and this is true) who when they have sex yell their own name out.  You don’t want a man like that. Go for the guy who sees the true beauty in you. Who will look at you and feel as though the whole REST of the world fades away. Who will make YOU feel that way.

I say this especially to survivors of cancer.  I only have a small scar from
my lumpectomy, but still my body is far from perfect – yet here is the thing I have learned and it has made ALL the difference…. Sexiness is not a look, it is not a style it is not a weight – it is an attitude.  It is in the way you view yourself, it is in the way you carry yourself.  It is in knowing your own self-worth.  Sexiness is an attitude one wears well.  It is not conceit (that is ugly) – it is a knowledge of your own self-worth.
It is in the way you love others, the way you touch someone, the way you live and think.  People mistake sexiness for a type of look.  They are WRONG.  For a woman, it is all about BEING a woman.  Making a man feel like a man… Going after you want (and not stepping on toes or hearts to do it).  Living life FULLY and believing in yourself; using your gifts to build others up and not tear them down.

Some of my Pink sisters have undergone mastectomies and some of you other types of cancer survivors have other types of physical scars that have been done because of a surgery that SAVED YOUR LIFE.  Don’t feel less because of it!  Someone who loves you, TRULY loves you will love you fiercely because YOU ARE STILL ALIVE.  Because YOU ARE STILL HERE.  Because YOU ARE (or have been) through a physical war!  You are a fighter!  You are a survivor!  You are BEAUTIFUL because YOU didn’t give up!  You are the BEST KIND OF BEAUTIFUL!!!!

Be with someone who will see your scars and still see the beauty of YOU.  You were in a war – a war you WON.  They are battle scars.  They have become part of who you are.

When you truly love someone it is their inner beauty that shines through their physical imperfections becomes the things that make them irresistible to you, the things you love most about them, the thing that differentiates them from all the rest.  That mole, that scar, that gap between their teeth, that big butt or those love handles.  When you love someone, you love all of them whatever it is that makes them unique, and ohhh how those things that they consider faults or imperfections become lovable and endearing.

Love is in the eye of the beholder, it is not a “cookie cutter” type thing.  If someone can’t love you like that – they are not worthy of your love, they don’t see that the real you is what is on the inside.  Looks fade, people get old – what lasts is the beauty of YOU.  Your spirit, your soul.  Have you ever seen an elderly couple and the way the man looks at his wife as though she were the most beautiful thing God ever created?
That’s the kind of love worth holding out for, that’s the love that will last.

If someone can’t love you as you are and encourage you to do whatever you need to do to feel good about yourself, than they are not worth your effort, time or love.

If someone doesn’t see your inner beauty but wants physical perfection – drop them like a hot potato, they are not worthy of you or your love and the truth of the matter is they will never find what they are looking for – there is no perfect person out there, there is always going to be someone more outwardly attractive, and the truth is you should be with someone who desires you, loves you, wants you, needs you, feels their most beautiful when they are walking besides you.  Only has eyes for you.  That’s a love worth holding out.