It has now been seven years since I started this blog. How quickly time goes by! We are many members but we are one in the body of Christ. Therefore you do not journey alone! Hopefully through this site you will be encouraged by the fact that many things you are going through in your own walk, others are going through (or have gone through) as well. Sometimes we think we are "going through things alone." But we are not. God said that "He would Never Leave Nor Forsake Us." (Hebrews 13:5) and that "There is Nothing New Under The Sun." (Ecclesiastes 1:9). No man is an island. It's easy to forget that. May the words in this blog help you to think, encourage you in whatever spiritual state you are in and may the Lord use them to help us to grow in Him! He is the Author and Finisher of our faith!

I don’t want any readers to think that I am “promoting” being a prodigal. I definitely am not. But what I am hoping to do – is to encourage those of us who either have had or are currently experiencing a hard time in our walk to be honest about it. Personal conviction is a powerful thing, especially if you truly love the Lord. I think that sometimes the Body of Christ critiques and judges to the point where the person who is at the other end of that pointing finger feels ostracized, alienated and alone. I don't think that that is what Jesus intended. When I read through my Bible - I see a firm yet gentle restoration that Jesus ministered to those around Him. Look at John 21:15-19. When Peter who was at an all time low point in his walk - he was firmly, yet lovingly restored by Jesus. He didn't tear him down, or yell or make him feel any worse then he already did. He spoke to him lovingly and gently - and in doing so, Peter was able to repent and minister in a much more powerful, humble and confident way and it became one of the largest ministries ever.

Please note that I am only a vessel, my calling - to write. I dedicate this blog to the Lord and ask that He use it to reach out and touch whoever needs a special, loving, personal touch from Him. My hope is that the Holy Spirit allows you to see Him through the words (and not me). We go through things so that we can extend our right hand of fellowship behind us to assist and help someone else. Our Bible is the same today, as it was yesterday as it will be tomorrow. (I am far from perfect and do not profess to have all the answers...) but the good news is - Our Heavenly Father does! His love, forgiveness, grace and mercy is real!Nothing you are experiencing in your walk comes as a surprise to Him! May He be glorified through this blog and may God bless you at whatever stage in your walk you are in!~

I am a Breast Cancer Survivor

I am a Breast Cancer Survivor
I was diagnosed with early stage triple negative breast cancer on June 24th, 2010 - I have been cancer free for 7 years now. It was only a chapter in my life - NOT my life, but the impact is one that has changed my life forever. Its important for women to know that 80% of the breast cancer diagnosis come from women who don't have a history of it in their family (My family didn't). Early detection is the key. For more information please click on the pink ribbon above. It could save your life.


April 26, 2010

Is Your Love Like a Flickering "Light Bulb"?

I found myself thinking a lot about the word "Love" this weekend... What love is and what love isn't.  How do you show love? Is your love like a flickering light bulb? Blinking on and off, on and off on and off....  It brought to mind a very famous song by the Beatles that went like this:

"All You Need is Love... yadadadada"

We were all born like blank sheets of paper.  Our lives experiences are the words that form on the page and set the tone of our future relationships from the foundation that is set in our childhood.  We start out as helpless infants - I once heard of a study that tested how well babies thrived.  Those that were held and loved and those that were just cared for.  The babies that were held and rocked were the ones that thrived the most.  (I'm not sure of where this study was done I'm just remembering that I heard of it once).  And when you think about it - it makes perfect sense. We really haven't changed since we were babies - WE NEED LOVE. 

1 Corinthians Chapter 13:4-8 tells us that:

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

What shows love to you?  I of course can only speak for myself.  There is nothing more appealing to me than a man who knows how to treat a woman.  Who stands behind his word.  Who shows consideration for her feelings. Who can show a woman by his actions that he loves her. Who can say, "I'm sorry" when he's made a mistake or when he is wrong without feeling that that makes him weak (for it doesn't - in fact it makes him more of a man).  Honesty - that goes a long way. Eve was made under Adam's heart. To be protected, respected and loved. Those are the qualities that show me that someone loves me. To be treated... "like a woman."

In the same respect - a "real woman" knows how to love her man. To appreciate him - to be his "helpmate." To be forgiving, understanding, compassionate and loving.  To make him feel "special." To show him that he is "one of a kind." To support his dreams and desires. A "real woman" can apologize when she is wrong.

My sister Shannon had posted a saying on her Facebook.  One that was kind of sad but true it went like this:  "Sometimes a guy realizes how much they care about a girl after the fact - and how amazing she really was. When that day comes, she's usually walking with the guy who already knew..."

Love is not wanting to change a person. But loving them inspite of their faults.  There is "no perfect person." We all have things within ourselves that we need to work on. We all have our flaws. Part of loving a person is accepting their good points and their bad. Loving them while knowing that everyone has their faults. If you are looking for Mister Perfect - guess what? He doesn't exist and maybe - just maybe you need to take a look in the mirror and realize the things you need to change about yourself - because Miss Perfect doesn't exist either.

Love should be a mutual giving and receiving. It should be a two way street.  When its "all about one person" there becomes a road block.

The best way to show a person you love them - is to love them. Simply, truly love them.  Actions really do show the inside of your heart.  They speak louder than the words you say.  And because its "better to give than to receive" don't be surprised  when the object of your affection - turns, runs into your arms, wraps her arms tightly around you and hugs you close while whispering in your ear.  "I love you. I'm so glad you are in my life." Because in sowing your love for someone - be prepared to reap a harvest.  It may be hard work - but in the end - it is soooooo worth it!

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